The dynamics that drive the train in a relationship can lie deeply below the surface. Through hypnotic regression, the keys to unlocking long standing destructive patterns can be revealed and changed to healthy, self supporting patterns.
The following is a true story about a client who came to me very distraught about her love life. Cindy is not her real name. I hope from reading Cindy’s story you can more fully understand how the driving force of the subconscious mind comes into play in our relationships.
Cindy had married and divorced four alcoholic men when she sought help for her life. The first three men were actively drinking when she married them. The fourth was not. About six months into the marriage, he suffered a trauma and began to drink to cope. Soon, he exhibited all the behaviors typical to the alcoholic and Cindy got her forth divorce.
Using hypnotic regression, Cindy began to relate that her mother had been alcoholic during her childhood. Her mother had been raped at age twelve, and had learned to drink to cope with her own emotional pain.
At age six, Cindy, feeling alone, abandoned and needing love, decided, “If I make Mother happy, she won’t drink and she will be there to give me love.”
I coached her to re-educate the Child to see that she can’t “make” someone else happy. That desire has to come from within the person. I then helped the Adult to bond with the Child, having her tell the Child, “I am your mother and father now. I will never leave you. I love you unconditionally, just as you are. And even when I leave this Earth life, you will be right in my heart, forevermore.” The bonding was successful.
In a short period of time, Cindy met a wonderful sober young man. They fell in love and established a happy, healthy relationship.
Often people try to tough it out and make things happen in relationships. There is truly an easier way and this way is through hypnotherapy.
If you or someone you love is struggling or in strife in their relationships, I would love to help you and your loved ones discover their unconscious patterns that cause love goals to not be fulfilled! It is so simple and the rewards are great!
