Dr. Joy Vanderbeck

We all have relationships. Most of us are looking for improved skills for creating and maintaining healthy, intimate relationships, and find ourselves struggling to achieve effective communication and a sense of joy in all our relationships.

Live in healthy relationships – Know how you are involved with others, your role in those relationships and what is "healthy" for you—your boundaries and what you are responsible for as a partner or team member.

We all learned algebra and the capitol of Brazil, but nowhere in traditional education are simple communication skills taught. In working with families for more than 30 years, I have found that communication is a key factor in the success of relationships. Forgiveness, empathy and commitment are other key factors.

I believe that most relationship challenges can be successfully resolved using philosophies and tools that I have developed over these last three decades.

Here is a plan for Righting Relationships:

8 Steps to Righting Relationships

Realize Challenges

Improve Communications

Generate a Plan

Heal Wounds

Target Priorities

Implement the Plan

Name New Goals

Give Gratitude and Enjoy

I offer these simple steps as a starter to help you be empowered in your communication in relationships:

Nine Easy Steps to Successful Communication
Joy Vanderbeck, Ph.D. C.Ht.

COMMUNICATE CLEARLY WHAT YOU WANT!
Remember that only one person speaks at a time. Each person must hear the other through and respond to what they have said before taking their turn.

1. Open Your Heart Realize that the person may not be aware of the impact of their actions.
2. Validation: Validate the person you are speaking with. Find something to praise them for or express empathy for their life situation or challenge.
3. "I am feeling": State what it is that you are feeling or experiencing.
4. Request: Request clearly what you desire.
5. Repeat: Ask your partner to repeat back to you what you have said. Solicit feedback.
6. Plan: Plan and negotiate together how your request can be honored
7. Agree: Agree on the plan. (Remember that often a plan must include a time deadline for the request to be honored.)
8. Reiterate: Reiterate the agreement. This is crucial to be certain that all parties clearly understand the agreement.
9. Thanks Thank the person for their willingness to communicate with you.

Relationships

COMMUNICATION

SELF DISCOVERY

Congratulations on doing a great job of helping me become a better communicator. Our marriage is on a better track than it has EVER been on. My business is doing much better, and my personal confidence is at an all time high. Life is good, and I appreciate everything you have done to make it that way.

Thanks! Walter Monk
President
Voice Ventures, Inc.

Peace, self-esteem, self-confidence, purpose, and direction. I found all of these because of the caring counsel of Dr. Joy Vanderbeck. While struggling mightily when I first met Joy, she was able to help me "peel the onion" to discover true root causes of my problems and concerns. The result has been a healthy marriage, a keen sense of purpose and direction, both personally and professionally, and tools to help me continue to make thoughtful and loving decisions for the benefit of me and my family. Joy, I am deeply thankful for your care, concern, guidance, and remarkable sense of truth and personal discovery.

Everything is possible!

Go Straight Ahead With Your Life Now!